grief integration
Grief Integration Ritual & Retreat
november 13 - 15, 2026
Three days on the Oregon coast, in ceremony, in community, with people who have stopped pretending they are fine.
Grief Integration Ritual & Retreat
Somewhere along the way we learned some unhelpful things about grief, anger, disappointment, and the idea of being a burden. Somewhere along the way we learned we couldn’t show our messiness, ask for support, let anyone see our heartbreak. Somewhere along the way we learned to carry it alone, pretend that we are fine, distract, “be strong”, avoid, and move on.
It’s time to learn some new things about what it means to be alive. What it means to be a people. What it means to be heart-full and heart broken in these uncertain and dynamic times. It’s time to remember how to grieve together, how to ask for help, how to hold and be held with respect in the breakdown, and to be welcome exactly as we are.
Who is this for?
This retreat holds people carrying all of it: a death, divorce, an aging bodies, dreams that never came true, estrangements, addictions, loneliness with no name, ancestral grief passed down before you had words for it, the quiet unnamed ache that shows up every year around this time whether you invite it or not.
You do not need a fresh loss to belong here. You only need to be willing to feel what has been waiting for you.
This retreat is designed to:
Nourish, resource, and hold you and all you are grieving and longing for
Educate on the historic, cultural, medical, and spiritual landscapes of grief
Honor that which you have lost and been separated from
Celebrate that which you most love and long for now
Create a deep sense of belonging with an intimate group of heart-centered people
Co-create and participate in a community grief ritual
Explore meaningful rituals to integrate into our lives and support our remembrance
packages
All packages includes
Holistic, nourishing vegetarian meals (with vegan and gluten free options on request)
Two nights in a beautiful shared home on the stunning Oregon Coast
Cacao and a curated grief support tea
Community Grief Ritual
Grief Education
Individual & earth-based grief ritual
Space and time for creative expressions, personal reflection, and connection with nature.
a glimpse into our past retreats
Investment
Community Room (8 spots) — $890 early bird through Sept 30, $940 after
Private Suite (4 spots) — $1,750 early bird through Sept 30, $1,900 after
The community room (Forest Connection) is shared, community style — the room most people who've come before remember for the closeness, not the square footage. The Private Suite (Ocean Solace) is private, with a king bed, for the ones who need a door that closes and their own bathroom at the end of a day like this.
Limited scholarship and sliding-scale spots are available for People of the Global Majority and LGBTQIA+ participants. Reach out before registering if this applies to you.
our home for the weekend
“Grief is a way of loving what has slipped from view. Love is a way of grieving that which has not yet done so.”
meet your guide: alyssa rose
I'm Alyssa, a grief ritualist and death doula based in Portland, Oregon. I've sat with hundreds of families as they moved through loss, and I'm also just a person who is grieving. I'm a single mother raising my daughter on land, in an intentional community, still learning what it means to let myself be held, to be a part of a village, and to tell the truth about what hurts.
I don't lead this work from above it. I lead it from inside it, beside you.
Frequently Asked Questions
Is this therapy?
No. This is a grief ritual and community healing practice, not clinical therapy. If you're in an active mental health crisis, please connect with a provider first — this space is not equipped to hold that alone.
Do I need to know what I'm grieving?
No. Many people arrive without a clear story, or with a vague feeling of being stuck. That's a welcome place to start.
What should I expect physically?
We'll be outside in coastal November weather, so bring layers, waterproof gear, and sturdy shoes. The retreat home has stairs and no elevator access.
What if I need to cancel?
Cancellations made 30 or more days before the retreat receive a 50% refund. Cancellations within 30 days are not refundable.
Where is it?
This location is about an hour and forty five minutes SW of Portland on the Oregon Coast.
